Sexuality has been became a Myers-Briggs check of kinds.
TikTok customers are doing their questionable greatest to assist girls decide in the event that they’re actually drawn to males — or in the event that they’ve really simply succumbed to “obligatory heterosexuality” and are, in reality, lesbian.
In a single significantly viral video tagged with the pattern’s “#comphet” hashtag, a consumer checklists “frequent indicators of obligatory heterosexuality.”
These embrace: “Liking guys till they such as you again,” “solely liking fictional males and celebrities,” “kissing your girlfriends while you had been youthful to ‘apply for guys,’” “feeling bored when intimate with guys” and, in fact, “feeling nauseous when intimate with guys.”
The tag #comphet has racked up over 61 million views on the social media platform, with movies typically preaching the constructive factors of being bisexual. The viral video pattern additionally appears to lift consciousness about what number of girls suppose they’re heterosexual — however truly are simply falling prey to the pressures of a patriarchal society. The useful explainer embedded beneath — from TikToker @FemmeFetti — has racked up greater than 400,000 views on the platform.
The phrase “obligatory heterosexuality” was first coined by feminist Adrienne Wealthy in her 1980 essay, “Obligatory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence,” wherein she argues that feminine heterosexuality is a product of nurture, not nature. Cosmopolitan posits that the time period’s latest burst of recognition will be attributed to a resurfacing of the viral 2018 PDF “Am I a Lesbian?” wherein then-teenager Angeli Luz provided a chaptered “masterdoc” pamphlet to serving to readers decide in the event that they’re lesbian. The primary chapter is titled, “What’s Obligatory Heterosexuality?”
“Obligatory heterosexuality is the voice in my head that claims I have to actually be het[erosexual] even once I’m in love with a lady. Obligatory heterosexuality is what forces lesbians to battle by means of studying the distinction between what you’ve been taught you need (being with males) and what you do need (being with girls), which is why so many lesbians have dated males in some unspecified time in the future,” Luz defined within the doc, which has since spawned scores of viral TikToks, together with the one embedded beneath.
“Obligatory heterosexuality is similar to heteronormativity — the belief that straight is the default,” Luz added. “We’re educated from delivery to imagine that we’ll discover somebody of the opposite binary gender, fall in love, have intercourse, and so on. In 1,000,000 tiny methods we’re taught that solely relationships with the opposite binary gender are legitimate. (And in the event you’re not one of many binary genders this may be much more complicated.)”